Real Men or Just Cowards?

I remembered how much an old woman who was my mentor and grandmother in the faith would talk about how she met her husband who was a pastor and the poor choices the other women made.  The other women chose men who were smokers, drinkers, brawlers and worse womanizers while she chose a decent husband.  All the others had stormy marriages and their husbands also died violent deaths but she had a healthy, loving relationship with her husband until the very end of his days.  He died peacefully while the others may sadly be burning in Hell now.  Today we've got the crooked mindset of the youth that they do a lot of bad stuff like heavy smoking, getting drunk, brawling (so that's why they join fraternities, are big bad bullies who pick on the weak and street fights!), they play around with women (and the women they choose aren't the decent types plus they have multiple divorces which leads to MUCH stress) or if they feel dateless on Valentine's Day they get some rent-a-whores just to look manly?  Worse, they would label men like me to be faggots and sissies?  Are these real men?  Not a chance!  The Bible does not condone their type of behavior.  What is the Biblical man therefore?  

My example would be Boaz for Biblical manhood.  He definitely didn't let his ego get the best of him, he was a responsible man who knew how to manage the wealth God entrusted to him.  He didn't rush into marriage, in fact he was a bachelor waiting for the right girl.  In fact, one can judge by Boaz's behavior he treated Ruth with respect.  No doubt Ruth must have been a very pretty woman otherwise she would not be that easily noticed aside from her Moabite lineage.  But he liked Ruth for being her, her beauty was just the outside, her inner beauty mattered and not her outer.  He lived a decent life, he was doing what God wanted and he patiently waited for his partner.  God brought Ruth into his life as a double bonus- a woman who was beautiful inside out- but what counts is Ruth's inner beauty not her outer beauty.  He took Ruth at the right place at the right time- God's perfect timing!

To those who think they can be happy with having many women may think of the miseries David and Solomon faced with their sex lives.  David had all those girls but later he could only later love Bathsheba- to whom he stole her from Uriah but God restored him after repentance but please note not to follow his adultery with her.  It was in fact that David realized he could only love love woman and that his years of collecting women led him to his adulterous affair with Bathsheba.  Consider Solomon's repentance in Ecclesiastes to where he called himself the wise man who became a fool.  And another, in the Song of Solomon, notice thereof that he, Solomon could only love that Shullamite woman and no other.  Solomon had only one love out of his 1,000 women in his life.  Solomon didn't write about the other women but the Shullamite woman.  Solomon in fact felt he could only truly and only love one woman and the rest didn't matter in the Song of Solomon.  In fact Proverbs 5:11 warns about playing around with girls could lead to dangerous sexually transmitted diseases, why take such a risk?

Also pastors are required to be real men by God's standards.  1 Timothy 3:1-6 requires that pastors should be teachable, gentle, sober and the husband of but one wife.  A pastor who has multiple divorces, not teachable, brawler, smoking, drinking, etc. is definitely not right with God and may as well be considered a wolf in sheep's clothing.