Parental Lying Destroys the Family

Whether you like it or not, the parents are the very first sources of truth for the children. It's really unfortunate when it happens in the classroom like the teacher says, "Class, I'll tell you that there's no such thing as Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy." Then the child who was told by the parents that they exist may say to the teacher that, "No sir/ma'am, my parents say that they are real." That of course creates a huge problem especially that the child in a younger age tends to believe everything that the parent says. Worse, some parents can be very stupid to even quarrel with the teacher for telling the child the truth because they want to continue manipulating the child.

It's stupid to have parents say, "Oh it's just a white lie. It's different than when my child steals money from my wallet." Excuse me but a lie is always a lie and the fact that a lie no matter how big or how small is a distortion of the truth. Lying about Santa Claus making a list of who's been naughty and nice and giving toys to good girls and boys is no different than children lying to their parents to get what they want. Both are heavily grounded on deceit and they destroy the trust with the good intention of painting a smile on the other's face. To say it was just a fantasy game is trying to justify the lying done by the parents. A fantasy game is where everyone is aware that it's all fiction like dad can be Santa Claus, mom can be the Tooth Fairy and the child can be the Easter Bunny all the while they are aware that the characters don't exist. It's very different from lying to the child that Santa Claus exists.

The result is that there are very high chances that the child will be distrustful to the parents. So when the parent tells this and that, the child may not only be a habitual liar but also a habitual rebel. If the child learns that there is no boogeyman who is going to eat him or her up, he or she will continue to misbehave. By the time the parent talks about the possibility of being kidnapped, the child may not want to listen or if he or she seeks other sources of truth, he or she would say, "My teacher tells the truth more than you do. My teacher told me Santa Claus doesn't exist and you kept saying he did. My teacher told me also that the boogeyman isn't real and showed us why we shouldn't talk to strangers based on our film showing and you never did!" The stupidity kicks in when the parent says, "We never lied to you... it was just a fantasy game." and the same excuse enters all over and over again which is very irritating to hear especially I've experienced that with that same stupid excuse myself.

All I can say is if parents kept lying to their children when they were small, they lose their every right to complain that their child keeps lying to them. Actions will always speak louder than words. The child who might be habitually lying might be seeking revenge. If you think of it, the fallen nature of man does not only seek to deceive for one's personal benefit but also the desire to seek revenge if they believe they were wronged. At the same time, hypocrisy is present in humanity as a result of the fall. The result is that trust is being distorted as a result. What was just a lie with a good intention ended up spring out its bad results. They may not get caught for parental lying but the Supreme Court of Heaven isn't going to let it pass. Romans 3:4 says that, "Let God be true and every man be a liar." in short, we all deserve Hellfire but God was merciful enough to sent Jesus to die for a debt that could not be paid. Sad to say most people think that their little "white lies" won't send them to Hell because they think that if they do more good than bad they are okay compared to what James 2:10 has to say that we all fall short of God's perfect standard.

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