Is Having a Girlfriend/Boyfriend and/or Getting Married Always a Sign/s of Maturity? Not Always!
I just had a thought about the issue of whether or not getting a boyfriend/girlfriend and/or getting married should really be considered signs of maturity. The answer? Not always. I had thought that some people are now getting into relationships and even getting married for the wrong reasons. I remembered being ridiculed about my singleness so then I guess they might as well unfairly criticize Paul for his singleness too? I listened to some of Paul Washer's sermons on courtship and marriage, he's right never to call such as jokes but rather sacred rituals that are now being defiled by today's evil society. What was disturbing is that I've even seen some heartless playboys who decide to get married not out of love but out of their own immaturity. There is nothing mature about womanizers, they are in fact huge spenders!
Looking at today's society, the sad fact is that many people engage into relationships or even get married for the wrong reasons:
1.) Desperation for the opposite sex- Sad but true but this is how many people are really today. Some men or women enter into relationships as early as 13-14 (or now at even below teenager years) in hopes to mature faster which can lead to premarital sex instead before they can get a job! Some men know a girl for quite a short time then the worse comes to worst comes is that they decide to get married out of desperation which a single man suddenly loses his time to wait like Boaz did or two, it could lead to divorce and remarriage to which is equivalent to adultery. It was just so sad also that a Christian friend of mine ended up fornicating with an unbelieving woman, fortunately he has the child with him to teach him the right ways.
2.) Insecurity of being wrongly labeled as a homosexual. Don't get me wrong I am not a homosexual nor do I condone homosexuality but I really hate the mentality that a man needs a woman to be a man or a woman needs a man to be a woman type of talk. That type of talk is really like in the first reason- they think they can "mutate" into homosexuality just because they aren't having a heterosexual relationship with such stupid trash talk that I'd rather not write down due to vulgar language. Homosexuality is different from singleness- please get a dictionary and see where the two differ in fact if a single man is not burning in lust after the same sex or doing anything sexual with the same sex, he is not a homosexual! Just because a person is an old bachelor/maid does not make the person a homosexual!
3.) The crowd mentality. This is what pretty gets people to suddenly seek relationships for the wrong reasons! Looks like gone are the days when Solomon sang the song to the Shullamite, gone are the days when Boaz waited for Ruth. Boaz today would probably be labeled as a faggot because he was an old bachelor. Just think about it- he waited for Ruth for quite some time to appear in his life! What happens with the crowd mentality with the, "All my friends are getting married and I'm not so I must..." is that instead of finding a Ruth, they find a Ruthless and for women instead of finding a Boaz they find a Jackaz. That's a very sad reason out of many why so many marriages fail today and end up in divorces or worse, multiple divorces.