The Ruining of Families in Today's Godless Society

I would like to do this rather intensive study on why the families of today are ruined. I would like to give a wake-up call to why our families are being ruined. It's a huge wake-up call I believe should be a real blast to the extremes of modernism. Please note that I DO NOT endorse the abusiveness of male chauvinism either. Chauvinism whether it'd be male or female is sinful. Now as you go through these topics, I would like to really tackle on MANY reasons why the family unit in society is getting destroyed. Plus we do have the ten planks of Communism to thank for that!

As a born again Christian, I would rather follow the Bible's ways for raising a household than the "evolution" of today's society. After all the Bible says in John 15:18-19 and Romans 12:1-3 that Christians are NEVER to conform or seek approval from the world! That is, their behavior must be conformed according to the world of God, not according to worldly standards! Seriously society is devolving and not evolving as the humanists want us to believe. We are already in a society that has already removed the real God of the Bible in favor for a god of their own creation. Only if people could just start reading their Bibles and know how to apply it, society would be better. Father working, mother at home and the children taught to do the same. I aim to get that kind of a marriage over the ideas of today's society that has already diminished the traditional Bible model for the sinful model of man!

Now here's what's going on with some good reasons why the family unit is deteriorating:

I.) Both parents are working instead of just the husband working and the wife at home

It's a total shame really that this should happen. God did not intend women to be forever career women, in fact, women are supposed to be home career women, not out of the home career women. Okay nothing wrong with a woman running a catering business at home if she doesn't let it get in between her and her children. Sadly the household is now a victim of the Communist plank of demanding both the man and the woman to do the SAME type of work. Communism in itself is a flawed system that transforms the harmonious household into a split one with its brainwashing of husbands that the housewives are no longer an existent issue. But in the Bible, no. The housewife is a vital part of society.

However the whole idea is this that today families have the mentality of "money comes first". I seriously gave a thought on how the overseas working mothers compare against mothers who work for six-eight hours of minimum wage, or even the housewife. It can't be denied that oversees workers do earn more money and give extra money to the husband but that is NOT the real aim of the mother. There's nothing wrong if the mother is a school teacher of a minimum wage who can go home at usually 4-5 P.M., pick up the children from school and tutor them. After all, she could do her test paper checking at school and continue them at home. But that's quite different from the overseas working mother who hardly is there for the children. The result can be this as Proverbs 29:15 calls the child left to himself is a shame to the mother. As a result, the children are most likely misguided in the process.

Then there's the excuse of the "daycare center" and the "nanny mentality". The whole problem is today is that the society has become nanny reliant rather than the mother being in charge. Seriously, I would rather bless and salute a stepmother who rears her stepchildren like their real mother than a real mother who leaves her children to be reared by the nanny. I really have to admit that seriously, many babysitters can be such big liars and the daycare centers tell lies to the children. Or perhaps one has to see how the daycare centers actually are not really daycare centers but day-uncare centers. Hmmm... with the daycare center scam, it'd be so easy for Communism to regain influence to stupid households!

II.) The husband abuses his authority as head of the household

Sad but true husbands are to blame too for the breakdown of the family. Although I do admire the women of way back yesterday for their submissiveness to their husbands, sadly I do not like how their husbands treated them. There should be no way that a husband by any means be, or by any means, should be abusive. The Bible commands in Ephesians 5:22 that husbands should LOVE their wives. Sadly so many husbands today do not even take the real responsibility of emotional support and focus TOO MUCH on finances which of course, every wife who may be financially supported but emotionally battered has EVERY RIGHT to complain. It should be the husband and not the wife who should be the primary source of income. However the husband takes advantage of being the sustainer and chooses to abuse that position to beat up the wife and treat the children like garbage.

So are are husbands treating their wives like trash? Aside from not doing their job as the provider while they can provide, there is also the issue of adultery. Some can go as far as to say this that, "Well it's okay as long as I provide for them." No! That's so dead wrong! Seriously, some husbands even think that it's okay for a man to have many mistresses but what he is often ignoring is that the Old Testament is over. God didn't really intend a polygamous family in the original plan. He only made Eve for Adam, not Adam and Eve and so on. No. God only allowed polygyny for a short amount of time but after that, the Law was reaffirmed that it was one man to one wife. What often disturbs me is how the husband could badmouth and bear false witness against his wife's good record of servicebut he ironically praises the homewrecking whore (who may be a way younger woman because he feels like his wife is getting "too old") to be virtuous. Seriously that is going on?! If that woman was ever a proper one, she would have not consented to be his girlfriend with the full knowledge he is a married man. But no, she's just too desperate to have a man that she would even go as far as wrecking a home! Then the husband demands a divorce to marry the slut which really will negatively affect his decisions sooner than you think in ways he cannot even expect!

The problem also with finding a younger woman is also a mark of an abusive husband. Has he forgotten about the vows of marriage? Seriously it was, "In sickness and in health, 'til DEATH do us part?" and NOT "'til divorce do us part"? But sadly, that's how the wicked norm of today's society is. They find younger women to replace their older wives AS IF they are not growing older and use the "old cow need young grass argument" to do so. What becomes a huge problem here is not the age gap but rather the wrong motive behind such a ridiculous notion that women are disposable. Some of them are even pedophiles who go after underaged girls just so to get over with "boredom" when God already gave them the right partner. Sadly, it's very hard to find two old people still holding hands, still very sweet and loving all these years. Or a bitter irony that can shown is how the aging wife is way prettier than the replacement wife.

It could also be a bitter irony too that the typical philandering husband while he complains over the needs of his wife, doesn't hesitate to provide the wants of his mistress. His wife needs this, he neglects it and tells her she must fend for himself. However if is mistress wants something unnecessary like a brand new BMW he doesn't hesitate to wastefully withdraw money that should have been paid for tuition fee of children. Seriously that's a series of double standards and hypocrisy. Well he can travel the world all around yet because of a sinful lifestyle (thus the evidence of unbelief is clearer than you think) he will say he's happy even when he is not. He may be stressed out while blaming his wife and legitimate children without thinking that his mistress and their illegitimate family has become an additional burden to him. Just talk about how the illegitimate child gets pampered and spoiled while the legitimate children hardly get their needs met. It may not always happen but the tendencies are very high. Or seriously how can a man really row two or more boats at the same time?! Still completely normal? No. God's Word it an abomination!

One may also consider the type of abusive husband who is making his wife earn the money and not him. This kind of husband gambles, gets drunk and spends a lot of money. He doesn't care about the household a bit. It becomes the wife and not him who is out there looking for money, while he does NOTHING. He doesn't even do the laundry, sweep the floor and cook food. He would rather let his wife do all the work. What can be worse is that these kinds of husbands even take away the money that the wife earned for the family and spends it on nonsense.

III.) The rebellious housewife is to be blamed too!

As much as I am with the idea of husbands as the head of the house, wives are to submit to. Submission is important if harmony is to be established. Even before the fall of man, Eve was already made to submit to Adam. The whole issue right now is that thanks to the "evolution" of society, feminism has been on the rise. That is, they CANNOT tell the difference between submission to the husband vs. spousal abuse. The husband has EVERY RIGHT to tell the wife to quit the career or as I see it, look for a career that does not keep her away from home. However we have these types of wives who simply will not listen to their husbands. Sadly, I also say the brutal history of man vs. woman wars are also responsible especially with how men can be that abusive.

So we have a woman who is an oversees worker and she gets married. However the husband one day says she must quit her oversees career because he already has his well-paying job. However due to the money comes first mentality she defies her husband and continues with her oversees worker job. That wife is a rebel like Athaliah the wicked queen was- not submitting to the husband. Then what happens next is that she may soon be involved in an extramarital affair while at work. Then the husband discovers his wife was flirting with another man or even followed them all the way to the movie house, he gets mad and confronts his wife. He may even later find her pregnant with another man, another leading reason why divorce skyrockets.

There is also the housewife who is not a housewife but a house-pig. How can that be described? Rather than doing chores like laundry, cleaning the house, doing the groceries, cooking, tutoring the kids and so on she can become reliant on the maids and tutors. She would rather sleep the whole day than take care of the house. When the husband returns, the house is literally a mess. There is also no food for him who came back from work. Seriously a queen is not a queen if she's not taking care of the castle. Some of them can go as far as to swindle their husbands into giving them more money than they need to spend on useless stuff like gambling, branded clothes, jewelry, etc. compared to the wife who asks for money for the necessities of the house like a new appliance in place of the ones that have reached their very end or for groceries because everybody has to eat.

This does not mean however that the wife has no mind of her own. She is not a puppet or an accessory, no she is the queen of the household. That is every woman who submits to her husband however has the right to complain over infidelity problems just as the husband has the right to complain if she does. This does not mean also the wife will tolerate abuse of authority because she herself, has the right to complain about being battered or being ran by a controlling husband. That is she has the right to complain about the husband withholding her allowance, discrediting her hard work and all just because she is not a financial machine. And as said, housewifery is something every married woman should master- cooking, baking, gardening and taking care of the house- which these kinds of women are much less likely to cheat on their partners. Of course the woman should learn to make money from home too just in the case the husband should die.

IV.) Homosexuality

Homosexuality is a family destroyer. God had created long ago the man for the woman. Romans 1:27 shows how wicked homosexuality is- the man leaving the natural use of the woman. In fact, it is an ABOMINATION throughout Old Testament to the New Testament. God may have abolished the ceremonial law but NEVER the moral law. Homosexuals are bearers of false witness no doubt- aside from lying the world they are the opposite sex, they make one lie after the other to justify their homosexuality. To be honest, their marriages are DYSFUNCTIONAL. God did not intend marriage to be one man to one man, it was one man to one woman! Would have God approved of homosexuality a bit, He would have made Eve a man and named him Steve. No, God made Eve for Adam, not Steve for Adam. I seriously even dare to question the claim of the "gay gene" because for one, homosexuality is not genetic or hormonal. Some closest homosexuals aren't even obvious to be one or some lesbians may be noisier than male homosexuals.

V.) Feminism

The feminist revolution can be linked to the rebellious housewife and to homosexuality. This is the mentality that women should have a career, be at work, be competitive as men, crush the husband as their slaves are or even avoid marriage. Many of them fall into lesbianism. Seriously the feminists are wicked, spiraling out of control and are home-wrecking whores. How are they destroying the home? I can name a few. They become the "wealthy man hunters" of this society. This is a result of rebellious housewives and working moms who work beyond the limits of home territory. They think about themselves or that men are just stupid or that why get married when you can flirt with married men? They end up breaking up happy families by becoming the third parties in every nuclear family. Just think of it that if it weren't for feminism, adultery would not skyrocket. Some of them even as young as teenagers would already start fleeting with men or even worse, perhaps in America, becoming mistresses to way older men while they are underaged. It's already bad enough for an adult woman to be a homewrecking whore, today even TEENAGERS are in taht paper. Feminists however are miserable because they are built on materialism and the LOVE OF MONEY (1 Timothy 6:10).

VI.) Divorce, adultery and fornication

Go ahead and be an abusive husband and be a rebellious wife and divorce will surely soar higher than you think! Sadly neither side can accept their faults and usually the abusive husband THINKS that he not at fault and vice versa. Divorce is really increasing because of adultery either on which part. Would have adultery been viewed by society as immoral and disgusting, would have husband and wife would never do such stuff. The issue that the wife is having another man could encourage the daughter to be a slut. The issue that the husband is having another woman could encourage the son to be womanizer. Either way it is not good. The result of adultery is where if on the part of the husband, there'll be a lot of illegitimate children to give a quarter of the fortunes to or on the side of the wife, her husband is declared the legal father of that illegitimate child THUS the children have to share EQUALLY with the bastard. Mark 10:9 declares that God HATES divorce!

Also because of parents who are not good examples, the tendencies of the son or the daughter to fornicate and not take responsibility for it are way higher. Okay temptation can't be avoided, even some good Christians have fallen into fornication BUT they took responsibility. However it has become a reality that because of bad parenting, it becomes no longer frowned upon for a woman to get pregnant with one man after the other or for a man to get various women pregnant one after the other, because they are imitating their parents. Christians who have fallen into fornication repent of it, not so much of the immoral who take pleasure in such activities.

VII.) Abortion

After adultery and fornication comes the fueling of abortion which really destroys the family. Sometimes I can see how people make fun of Christian men and women who have fornicated and took responsibility for it by caring for the child or even marrying each other. Some may even laugh at a woman who has repented of her adultery and is doing her best to raise the child born out of that sin on her own without wrecking the family that she already wrecked greater than she already did. They call it as a sissy. But the reality is abortion is FOR SISSIES who do not want to take responsibility for their sins. It becomes considered the "easy way out" for their problems. A solution for fornication and adultery? Seriously only if adultery and fornication were discouraged, abortion would also go down. However the evils of the abortion clinic is on the money comes first mentality. Seriously most people don't even realize how dangerous abortion is and that some women have already regretted and REPENTED of that sin too!