It's Stupid to Teach Children Not to Lie by Telling Them "White Lies"

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It's a big problem in secular parenting where parents think it's not okay for their children to lie to them but the other way around is okay - especially if something is just a "little white lie". This is a clear case of double standard. They can go ahead and appeal to the Bible to spank their children (because it's biblical) but did they forget these verses?
Romans 2:21-23 
Thou therefore which teachest another, teachest thou not thyself? thou that preachest a man should not steal, dost thou steal? [22] Thou that sayest a man should not commit adultery, dost thou commit adultery? thou that abhorrest idols, dost thou commit sacrilege? [23] Thou that makest thy boast of the law, through breaking the law dishonourest thou God?

There's one ugly truth that parents fail to see - it's that they are the very first source of truth for their children. If they promised that "Mommy or daddy will never lie!" then they must be true to it. This is where the hypocrisy goes so far. They punish their children for lying to them but to get what they want - they make up stories which they call as "harmless little white lies"! It's like telling the child that the Boogeyman will eat them if they lie, that there's a bat that will eat their fingers if they lie, that a monster will get their tongue if they lie or that Santa Claus won't bring them anything but coal this December 24th if they lie. Others may come up with fooling the child that they supposedly had a deal with the disciplinarian's office about his or her behavior (even when such deal didn't exist) even when it's not real. Worse, such lies are only uncovered during adulthood - which should be very frustrating!

What does the Bible have to say about this? This is what the Bible says about parenting:
Proverbs 22:6 
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

This is all about teaching the child proper values. How can the parent teach the child not to lie if they make up lies themselves to make sure their children behave well and don't lie to them? What if it comes that one day the child discovers that Santa Claus isn't real and it was just mommy and daddy wrapping up the gifts? What if one day they discover that there was no monster behind the wall that would eat them if they lie to their parents? Worse, parents say that it's just a harmless white lie. Sorry to say but that "little white lie" just gave the child yet more reasons to keep lying to their parents. If mommy and daddy can't tell the truth all the time then why should they?

What makes a person lie a lot? Well, there are various reasons. Some of them is their inability to accept reality. It's not necessarily that such people are manipulative. Others are just bitter. Others are because of the nurturing environment is where parents teach their children not to lie by lying. If you can't even be honest all the time with your children when they were children then don't expect them to be honest all the time with you either.

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