Say Yes to Proverbs 5 Sex Education, Say No to Worldly Sex Education
While doing some reading through Proverbs 5 yesterday and I found the late J. Vernon McGee's heading for this chapter to be rather interesting. It was called, "God's Sex Education". It is amazing how the whole chapter reveals what's wrong with the worldly sex education system. I remembered disliking the term sex education because of the negative connotations along with it. Sex is a wonderful thing in God's boundaries but a horrible thing when it steps outside God's boundaries. Sexual intercourse was designed for human beings. However, it only becomes evil when people decide to engage in sexual perversion.
Why am I opposed to secular sex education? I remembered in the video "If Footmen Tire You, What Will Horses Do?" by Estus Pirke (unfortunately, said video had the late pervert Jack Hyles in it) discussed about the fall of the public education system. How often are children taught about the erotic zones of pleasure? One way or another - people will learn that sexual intercourse is the way humans reproduce and that there are different methods of reproduction. Biology teaches us about sexual and asexual reproduction. Humans reproduce sexually. The problem isn't studying the reproductive system in a biology class but the malice of the human mind. How hard it is especially for teenagers not to resist the urge to commit fornication because their hormones are acting up?
If there's anything wrong with the sexual education of the world - people are taught that sexual immorality is just normal, not abnormal. It's abnormal when things go against the natural order. A good example is how deviances like premarital sex, pedophilia, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, incest, and live-in relationships are considered normal. Worse, it has already become a "hate crime" (when it isn't ad the advocates of the LGBT community are the ones who are really guilty of it) to warn people about the consequences. This is the problem of the public school education system. Sadly, some "Christian" schools are falling into that compromise as well. It's not a result of progress but rather trying to have progress without God in the picture.
Proverbs 5 really starts off with teaching what I'd call responsible and godly sex education.
It's not the sex education that the world has. Rather, it teaches you about real safe sex - not the safe sex that the world encourages. Practicing "safe fornication" is not safe at all. The only real safe sex is sex within God's boundaries - not sex done to satisfy one's wicked flesh. Ironic how Solomon would ignore the warnings that he got from God.
Everything starts with avoiding the wicked woman regardless of appearance. Perhaps one of my biggest mistakes was to enroll in a Catholic university. Although I have not been restored to my former faith - I still find myself in a place of wickedness. Some of the students themselves sold their flesh in order to pay for their tuition fees. While poverty itself is a root cause of crime but it's no excuse to do criminal activities. I remembered some of these tactics involve caressing and sweet words. These people have their feet taking hold of Hell because they're not saved. It would be a dangerous thing to fornicate or to commit adultery, especially with an unsaved person. I've even read how these people have multiple boyfriends at once. Many of these boyfriends usually also act as sex partners. They sell themselves for sex outside marriage. It doesn't matter if they are good-looking or not but these women are to be avoided!
The best advice is to stay away from such women. Proverbs 5:8-10 does weigh the consequences of having affairs with strange women. It doesn't matter if it's adultery or premarital sex - these things are equally vile before God. So many times are many of these women actually gold-digging whores. I still remembered the sad state of life of the late Anna Nicole Smith and the late Marilyn Monroe. Both were homewrecking whores who died of drug overdose which I'd assume was suicide. Smith's marriage to a man old enough to be her grandfather was for money. Monroe, as I've heard, was a paramour of the late John F. Kennedy. They would wreck other people's homes. Men think that it's okay to commit adultery, right? After all, David and Solomon had many women too, right? David's home was in shambles and many of his children rebelled against him. David could've just forgotten Michal (because she was now divorced and remarried which was an abomination to return to her) and just stuck with Abigail. Solomon could've had a happy all throughout the Song of Solomon if it wasn't for him neglecting his first love for other women. Many times, strangers will fill the estate because there will be bastard children claiming their shares. There will also be times when female paramours would use the money they get to support lazy freeloaders too. I believe that's what it's mean to have strangers filled with your material wealth!
I really dare believe that Proverbs 5:11 refers to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). McGee would later call it it's the result of venereal disease. I remembered getting too scared about it during a biology class. Hearing of how sex outside God's boundaries will lead to so much trouble. I hear of how various diseases as discussed in science can cause a lot of problems to those infected by it. Syphilis, herpes, genital warts, and the probably still incurable AIDS are not a joke. I've seen people and heard of people die from them. Where there is sin there is a consequence. Although not every disease is a result of one's personal sin but it was a result of Adam's sin in the Garden of Eden. God gave His rules to fallen humanity for one's protection. God was still giving rules to humanity to protect them. You can imagine just how painful it is to be inflicted. How many of these people have their regret as written in Proverbs 5:12-14. That's why I'm glad that by the grace of God that I don't contract sexual services even when I'm tempted to do so. That's why I'm glad God hates sexual services because He knows of the consequences.
While I may be a King James Only-ist but I'm a KJV Only moderate. Why I have trouble with most of the modern translations today is because of the missing verses and how some things are said. However, I decided to read Proverbs 5 from the Good News Translation (GNT) which was a Roman Catholic translation to a Roman Catholic engaged in his sexual immorality. The GNT has a very literal translation to the cisterns spoken in the KJV. Here's how it's stated from Proverbs 5:15-23:
McGee also states in his commentary of Proverbs 5:15-17 and 18:19 the following lessons:
Christian education can't avoid it either. I still remembered how our biology teacher and a Bible teacher gave us our sex education. The Bible teacher taught us about sexual deviances vs. God's version of sex. It shouldn't cover an elaborate picture of how sex is being done. We do learn in high school biology and general sciences that the women's hymen is ripped off during the first sexual intercourse. Science itself also teaches us the consequences of sin because God is its author. Christian education must teach to handle what sex is, why it's a wonderful thing in God's boundaries and a dangerous thing when it's taken out of God's boundaries without being explicit. That means pornographic visuals must never be used in proper sex education.
See also:
Why am I opposed to secular sex education? I remembered in the video "If Footmen Tire You, What Will Horses Do?" by Estus Pirke (unfortunately, said video had the late pervert Jack Hyles in it) discussed about the fall of the public education system. How often are children taught about the erotic zones of pleasure? One way or another - people will learn that sexual intercourse is the way humans reproduce and that there are different methods of reproduction. Biology teaches us about sexual and asexual reproduction. Humans reproduce sexually. The problem isn't studying the reproductive system in a biology class but the malice of the human mind. How hard it is especially for teenagers not to resist the urge to commit fornication because their hormones are acting up?
If there's anything wrong with the sexual education of the world - people are taught that sexual immorality is just normal, not abnormal. It's abnormal when things go against the natural order. A good example is how deviances like premarital sex, pedophilia, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, incest, and live-in relationships are considered normal. Worse, it has already become a "hate crime" (when it isn't ad the advocates of the LGBT community are the ones who are really guilty of it) to warn people about the consequences. This is the problem of the public school education system. Sadly, some "Christian" schools are falling into that compromise as well. It's not a result of progress but rather trying to have progress without God in the picture.
Proverbs 5 really starts off with teaching what I'd call responsible and godly sex education.
It's not the sex education that the world has. Rather, it teaches you about real safe sex - not the safe sex that the world encourages. Practicing "safe fornication" is not safe at all. The only real safe sex is sex within God's boundaries - not sex done to satisfy one's wicked flesh. Ironic how Solomon would ignore the warnings that he got from God.
Everything starts with avoiding the wicked woman regardless of appearance. Perhaps one of my biggest mistakes was to enroll in a Catholic university. Although I have not been restored to my former faith - I still find myself in a place of wickedness. Some of the students themselves sold their flesh in order to pay for their tuition fees. While poverty itself is a root cause of crime but it's no excuse to do criminal activities. I remembered some of these tactics involve caressing and sweet words. These people have their feet taking hold of Hell because they're not saved. It would be a dangerous thing to fornicate or to commit adultery, especially with an unsaved person. I've even read how these people have multiple boyfriends at once. Many of these boyfriends usually also act as sex partners. They sell themselves for sex outside marriage. It doesn't matter if they are good-looking or not but these women are to be avoided!
The best advice is to stay away from such women. Proverbs 5:8-10 does weigh the consequences of having affairs with strange women. It doesn't matter if it's adultery or premarital sex - these things are equally vile before God. So many times are many of these women actually gold-digging whores. I still remembered the sad state of life of the late Anna Nicole Smith and the late Marilyn Monroe. Both were homewrecking whores who died of drug overdose which I'd assume was suicide. Smith's marriage to a man old enough to be her grandfather was for money. Monroe, as I've heard, was a paramour of the late John F. Kennedy. They would wreck other people's homes. Men think that it's okay to commit adultery, right? After all, David and Solomon had many women too, right? David's home was in shambles and many of his children rebelled against him. David could've just forgotten Michal (because she was now divorced and remarried which was an abomination to return to her) and just stuck with Abigail. Solomon could've had a happy all throughout the Song of Solomon if it wasn't for him neglecting his first love for other women. Many times, strangers will fill the estate because there will be bastard children claiming their shares. There will also be times when female paramours would use the money they get to support lazy freeloaders too. I believe that's what it's mean to have strangers filled with your material wealth!
I really dare believe that Proverbs 5:11 refers to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). McGee would later call it it's the result of venereal disease. I remembered getting too scared about it during a biology class. Hearing of how sex outside God's boundaries will lead to so much trouble. I hear of how various diseases as discussed in science can cause a lot of problems to those infected by it. Syphilis, herpes, genital warts, and the probably still incurable AIDS are not a joke. I've seen people and heard of people die from them. Where there is sin there is a consequence. Although not every disease is a result of one's personal sin but it was a result of Adam's sin in the Garden of Eden. God gave His rules to fallen humanity for one's protection. God was still giving rules to humanity to protect them. You can imagine just how painful it is to be inflicted. How many of these people have their regret as written in Proverbs 5:12-14. That's why I'm glad that by the grace of God that I don't contract sexual services even when I'm tempted to do so. That's why I'm glad God hates sexual services because He knows of the consequences.
While I may be a King James Only-ist but I'm a KJV Only moderate. Why I have trouble with most of the modern translations today is because of the missing verses and how some things are said. However, I decided to read Proverbs 5 from the Good News Translation (GNT) which was a Roman Catholic translation to a Roman Catholic engaged in his sexual immorality. The GNT has a very literal translation to the cisterns spoken in the KJV. Here's how it's stated from Proverbs 5:15-23:
Be faithful to your own wife and give your love to her alone. 16 Children that you have by other women will do you no good. 17 Your children should grow up to help you, not strangers. 18 So be happy with your wife and find your joy with the woman you married— 19 pretty and graceful as a deer. Let her charms keep you happy; let her surround you with her love. 20 Son, why should you give your love to another woman? Why should you prefer the charms of another man's wife? 21 The Lord sees everything you do. Wherever you go, he is watching. 22 The sins of the wicked are a trap. They get caught in the net of their own sin. 23 They die because they have no self-control. Their utter stupidity will send them to their graves.
McGee also states in his commentary of Proverbs 5:15-17 and 18:19 the following lessons:
- Never have children outside the boundaries of marriage. If you can't have children then adoption is an option. Don't do what Sarah and Abraham did. Sarah was mighty foolish to allow her husband to take a paramour so they can have a child. Instead, it caused so much pain when Abraham realized that Ishmael is not the child of promise.
- Physical and sexual love are meant to be in the bounds of marriage and to be sanctified. When it's sex outside marriage then it can't be considered love at all. It's already lust when a person burns with passion and how often can the sinful mind mistake love for lust. Teenagers themselves may find themselves thinking that they've got romantic feelings for the opposite gender when it's all about lust.
- God is the designer of marriage so He has every right to lift it up in the highest plane. It was meant to be for the human family and for the welfare and good of mankind. Unfortunately, sex perverts want to support such deviances such as adultery, polygamy, homosexuality, pedophilia and bestiality. You can consider how perverts say that there's supposed to be a "positive effect" for societies that support such. What positive effects? Some of these countries may still be progressive financially but they have become bankrupt spiritually. Capitalism is good but only when it's ethically or better practiced with godly businessmen. However, sex should never be in the supply and demand gap and should never be part of the trade! It's no longer healthy business but exploitation when sex is involved in the trade!
- The enticement of strange women is pleasing (at first) but they would end in destruction. It still amazes me how some physically ugly women tend to be just as internally filthy as fair women without discretion. The issue has never been the face and body - it's the wickedness of the human heart. The GNT makes it a little more clear by saying that desiring the charms of another man's wife is pure wickedness. Many times, you want to get into that affair so you can slowly steal another man's wife and his properties. How often is divorce usually ending in a 50-50 split? Is the other man looking for that half of the property of the other? It seems like it but financial gain isn't everything. While money is indeed important but what's the use of having lots of money when you'll end up spending everything in pain relievers and medication because you're suffering from an STD?
So how would I suggest to do sex education God's way?
Learn the Bible's way. Here's some good advice from Got Questions about how to handle sex education:
First, what does the Bible say about sex? Sexuality is a gift to us from God and should be viewed as such. God created sex for two purposes: procreation and unity between husband and wife (Genesis 1:28; Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:7–8; 1 Corinthians 7:1–5). Any other use of sex is sin (1 Corinthians 6:9, 18; 1 Thessalonians 4:3). Sadly, many in our world do not believe these truths. As a result, there are many perversions of sexuality and much unnecessary pain caused by them. Parents who properly educate their children about sex can help their children discern truth from error, walk in wisdom, and ultimately have a more wholesome experience of the gift of sexuality.
Most modern sex education instruction presents perversion, fornication, homosexuality, and living together before marriage as “normal” expressions of sexuality. Any teaching of boundaries is limited to the avoidance of negative consequences. All of this is contrary to Scripture (1 Corinthians 6:9; Leviticus 20:15–16; Matthew 5:28). Christian parents should be actively involved in all aspects of their children’s education, especially in areas that compromise Scripture. Parents should be aware of what their children are learning and correct any misinformation given to their children. They should also educate their children in such a way as to equip the children to discern biblical truth from cultural error. God holds parents responsible for the upbringing of their children (Ephesians 6:4), not schools, churches, or governments.
Many parents find the topic of sexuality awkward and embarrassing, but it doesn't need to be. Parents should begin when the children are very young, speaking matter-of-factly with preschoolers about their bodies and how men and women are made differently. Those conversations transition naturally into more complex areas as the child matures. It is important that a child knows he can talk to mom or dad about anything that confuses him.
Sexual information bombards us from every direction, so these parent-child conversations must begin very early. Before parents allow a school system to instruct in sexuality or morality, they must be sure their children have already learned the truth. It is then crucial to stay abreast of what the children are learning and how they are applying their knowledge. Keeping a constant, open dialogue with one’s children is a key to staying in charge of what they are learning. When parents are proactive in their children’s instruction, those children have a basis upon which to recognize and reject errors that the world promotes as truth.
Christian education can't avoid it either. I still remembered how our biology teacher and a Bible teacher gave us our sex education. The Bible teacher taught us about sexual deviances vs. God's version of sex. It shouldn't cover an elaborate picture of how sex is being done. We do learn in high school biology and general sciences that the women's hymen is ripped off during the first sexual intercourse. Science itself also teaches us the consequences of sin because God is its author. Christian education must teach to handle what sex is, why it's a wonderful thing in God's boundaries and a dangerous thing when it's taken out of God's boundaries without being explicit. That means pornographic visuals must never be used in proper sex education.
See also: